I know Amy. I often blow through my emotions of being hurt and go straight to anger. Why? Because that is the emotion I am most comfortable feeling. Much more so that hurt. Anger is also the one feeling that I do ALL of my relationship damage from.
I try to get out of the anger mode as quickly as possible. I shoot to be out of it BEFORE I open my mouth. I get better at it every day. My marital struggles have been a great training ground for me growing as a man. I remember my freshman year history class, we had a you teacher, Mr. M. He would always talk about his life philosophies b4 the class settled down and I would always be listening to his pearls of wisdom. I'd like to share the one that sticks with me to this day.
Quote: Words are like bullets, once you let them out you can never put them back in. (He then acted out trying to catch words flying out of his mouth) He then told a short story of using a gun to shoot holes in a brand new couch. He said you can repair the couch, but it will always be scarred from the damage.It will NEVER be the same. Words are like bullets. Think, then speak.
His story ALWAYS stuck with me.
Amy, I cherish your insights. Please keep offering our wisdom to me. I appreciate you.
