Let me apologize in advance because I just came in from weeding and mowing lawn and I have dirt under my fingernails and sweat literally rolling down my face and I sit down to read THIS CRAP. I am PISSED!! WTH is your wife's problem?!! I think it's time to stop pussyfootin' around NOW.
It is my opinion that you need to tell her (nicely and calmly, of course) that you would be more than happy to come home and work on your marriage together and that in doing so, she wouldn't have all these additional stresses over the kids, etc... BUT, since she is NOT WILLING to do that, THIS is how it is going to be. You can do all this by starting off with one last apology for your mistake, tell her you have learned and grown and you want nothing more than to have a second chance at life together as a family. If she says no, then you NEED TO TELL HER ONCE AND FOR ALL that it's EVERY OTHER WEEKEND visitation (just like so many other parents). If she thinks it's going to be 50/50 she's delusional and you can put it to her just like that. She cannot expect you to pull HALF the weight (in ANY form or fashion) after kicking you OUT of the house AND family. You are left with no other choice but to get a life of your own and you are doing just that BECAUSE SHE IS FORCING YOU TO THROUGH HER UNWILLINGNESS TO FORGIVE AND MOVE FORWARD TOGETHER!
HH, at this point, it's her damn problem. Make it so. You are sorry. You are willing to do the necessary work to reconcile. You must now be willing to stop kissing her ass.
Sorry to be so blunt but she is really starting to annoy me with her holier-than-thou attitude.
