Poison

[Jamesjohn]

I have always ranted against any form of lableing on this site and IRL and I only use HD/LD/ND for clarity. To me labels can be convenient accessing cues for OP to pigeonhole themselves and get lazy; ie:

"I'm LD. that's just the way I am and I can't help it. You're HD. Maybe we're just too incompatible."

Maybe one way to find a good middle ground for change is to re-clarify HD and LD. Instead of High and Low Desire, we could look at is as Higher and Lower Desire?

This might help to shift the focus from trying to change yourself and/or your partner from high to low, or low to high, as the case may be. Instead, you might be able to work more on your "timing", and catching and creating more opportune moments. I think that these times may come along more often than we realize, and we might just be pissing them away.