Well said! I think it is too easy to get sucked in to spouse bashing here. Most of us can relate directly to what others have to say, sometimes it is uncanny how similar people's sitches can be. Me & Mojo are without a doubt twins separated at birth and I think that can help sometimes and hinder other times. I have to say I have on occasion resisted the temptation but not often enough, just to jump in and agree and offer similar examples of my H's bad behaviour. A few times recently I have almost posted replies to Mojo along those lines but stopped myself because my sitch IS improving and posting commiserations to people whose H's are behaving similar to the way my H has done does NOTHING but reinforce their vent and remind me of stuff I should have left behind.
As someone who has been on and off these boards for three years now my pattern seems to be 1) hit rock bottom, 2) hit the boards, 3)spend a little time venting and updating on my sitch, 4)get some decent advise and things I didn't want to hear, 5)start some serious work and things improve, 6) get addicted to the people and sitches on this board, 7)start feeling hopeless again 8)remind myself to GAL and come away again
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
and I think that can help sometimes and hinder other times. I have to say I have on occasion resisted the temptation but not often enough, just to jump in and agree and offer similar examples of my H's bad behaviour. A few times recently I have almost posted replies to Mojo along those lines but stopped myself because my sitch IS improving and posting commiserations to people whose H's are behaving similar to the way my H has done does NOTHING but reinforce their vent and remind me of stuff I should have left behind. 