Interestingly, I've been thinking about it and the posts that have most negatively affected me since I came back to the BB were actually Chrissy's posts, not those of any of my fellow HD types. She kind of reminds me of my depressive H and just the thought that my H might think about me in the way that she thinks about her H made me want to emotionally vomit and sent me straight to hell with utter feelings of hopelessness about my situation.
I am trying to assimilate all that I have learned through my various efforts to either "fix" or "accept" my situation. At this point, I think I could be quite happy with a compromise along the lines of - If my H would commit to initiating sex at least once a week with a good attitude, I would commit to not initiating sex more than once a week and would accept reasonable, respectful rejections with a good attitude.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
