There is a difference between 'no sweat off my back,' and pointing out to you all what I am seeing.
I'll give you a few examples.
Mojo showed up here again after a hiatus bringing vision and advice. Her PMA was sky high. She was offering solutions based upon success she had found.
Within a matter of weeks, her PMA has plummeted, her success and vision she found all but forgotten, and she is in the 'am I getting sex' cycle again, contemplating getting out of her M.
The spouse bashing I am talking about here is not of people's own spouses, but of other peoples' spouses... i.e., Mrs. Chrome and Mrs. HD. Tell me how convincing Chrome and HD that their situations are indeed hopeless are helping either one of them?
LFL, instead of encouraging Brian to hang with his C and give him some time to understand WHY his shrink has taken the tact that he has, you come out and say that Cs who wield 2 x 4s can sometimes cause more damage than help.
Really. I am going to assume that this C has plenty of education and experience to draw a professional conclusion and follow a course of action that he found reasonable and just. Giving the guy the benefit of the doubt, I'd encourage Brian to hang with the guy for a bit longer, rather than encourage suspicion of his C's motives at this point. What purpose does it serve anyone, including yourself, to aid Brian's misery, and further justify any semblance of dissatisfaction?
Lil and I have both recently posted here book recommendations that we found personally enlightening. You and Karen both continue to state how you are tired of reading, tired of yet 'another book.' Fine. They are your opinions... why pee on other people's parades? What do YOU gain out of popping up and b!tching on other people's threads... who are just trying to offer some hope?
Karen... I understand you are feeling weak and tired. And because I love you dearly, I am going to tell you to knock it off. That PMA is only going to feed your feelings of futility and misery. Take baby steps. Find your spunk. Find your reason to be happy. Adjust yourself any way you can, and if you need help in doing that... ask. But for the love of God, stop b!tching. You are SO beyond that.
