JJ, I haven't asked him if he really is reading the book yet, he hasn't had time to do laundry! But I did the same thing, bookmarked pages, the ones about "deciding to decide" and not waiting until the ambivalance is 100% gone to begin the process.
I like your idea about asking what the positive feelings he had with her are, to use that to build on for OR. This brings me to another question. He has said I could ask anything now. And I think I need to make a list of questions about her and their R. What DO I really want to know? I'm trying to work that out.
We went to a movie last night, and had another very passionate night! Wow - this is addictive. A small side effect- I have noticed for myself that in the morning (s), I end up feeling a little blue (waking up in my house, but not being able to stay, etc..)
We didn't talk about any more serious stuff last night, and he brought it up that he noticed that and still wants to. We have a LOT to talk about. He said he wants the first step to be us getting back to being close and feeling safe with each other again.
Now, I admit that the first thing I thought of when he said that was not how realistic and honest that is, but "I wish he'd said I want to be husband and wife again under the same roof". No sooner had I thought that and he said "You are my wife, I haven't forgotten that." Guess I let it show. Gonna work harder on that.
Means a lot! 
