Ah, yes, good point, GH. Well, here are some of the things I've done, and some of the things I plan on doing...
Have done: * Started reading DR. * Started seeing an IC - two visits, so far. I think it should work out well, as I now have some goals about improving myself or my sake; although, not sure if I'll keep this IC as she doesn't take my insurance. :P * All this week and both weekends W was gone, I planned things with family and friends. (Normally, I'd just have sat at home on my a$$, surfing the web or something.) * Planned more with friends for the coming weeks. (Normally, we don't do anything on weeknights.) * Cleaned the house more than it's been clean in a long time. It's been a semi-pit, which has been bugging me - having it clean picks up my spirits a good deal. (Even got a "thank you" twice from W about it tonight.) (Just getting started, so haven't actually done all that much.)
Plan to do: * Go to the gym on a regular basis (once a week, for now). Plan on signing up this week and starting week after next - have to get new shoes. * Go swimming every night (we own a pool). * Meet up with old friends that have been getting together every week (W and I will trade off weeks, as they're our shared friends - trade off b/c someone has to stay home with the kids. Maybe get a babysitter every once in a while.) * Work on models or some other hobby like that which I enjoyed in younger days. * Take guitar lessons - something I've wanted to do for a long time. * Poker nights with a few guy friends on a regular basis. * Clean out the garage and start woodworking.
I haven't come up with anything else, quite yet. I figure some of this goes towards GAL, and other stuff just goes toward improving self image and lower stress level.
One problem I'm running into is $$$. I'm usually very money conscious - perhaps to a fault (hrm, a cause factor in the A? yes) - but, I haven't checked what I've been spending for the last month, and am afraid to look. I can only keep that up for so long before I'm eating into savings earmarked for retirement investments. Before too long, I'm going to be tempted to start using credit cards I paid off a while ago - something I promised myself I would never do again. Anybody run into this problem? Do I just say "Whatever it takes to save this marriage!" and deal with the consequences later... even if headed for D? I have to admit, part of my fear is also not having enough money for what might be a costly custody battle, should I choose to try for custody.
