This site, much like religion is not and ALL OR NONE scenerio...in short, one can embrace some, even most of the precepts of a particular religion, and not others...does that mean you stop going to church because you have a differing opinion or slant on one particular area of the churches structure?
Been through one divorce here, not really interested in going through the pain of another. However, that being said does not mean there are not firm lines in the sand that cannot be crossed. Do I think marriages can survive an affair by one or the other partner...ABSOLUTELY. That being said, I also believe that the partner who was cheated on has some rights, and that the one who had the affair has a duty and responsibility to do some things that might be uncomfortable for them, but necessary to restore trust in a relationship.
In the scenerio here, I shared my opinion...that is opinion is that a three month hiatus of the affair is not and end to the affair, and for the marriage to be saved, there has to be a CLEAN break of the outside relationship, and if the SO is not willing to do that, then someone needs to take some precautions...seeking out the services of a good divorce attorney does not mean the marriage is over...in fact, it actually could be used as a really good tool of leverage in bringing the cheating spouse to their senses, force them to open their eyes and evaluate their own behaviors and options.
SD
Today is what counts, so make the most of what you have, rather than regret what might have been.
