I'm reading DR, but not sure when I'll get to this info, if it's in there at all. I've read enough here to figure that talking about your R (relationship) is typically bad. But, what about talking about the A (affair)?
In my particular case, W is out of town and meeting up with OM (actually more, if you've read my other threads). She told me she had certain things to say to him she had to do face-to-face, and then that they'd already agreed that when she came back they wouldn't talk for 3 months. I want to ask her how things went, and whether or not that 3 month deal still stands - partially out of concern for her emotional state, but mostly curiosity. Also, I think subconciously I'm looking to catch her in a lie, due to my current temptation to snoop and end up seeing them still talking. (I don't honestly have much hope for connecting with her emotional state, as she's completely walled that off from me and constantly has this happy facade on.)
