Don't bug him about 'is it REALLY over with OW?' But, you know that too.
I still sometimes have doubts as to whether my H's OW ever tried to contact him again-or vice versa. Trust is not re-built overnight, but the more time that goes by and the more he reinforces his commitment to you and the marriage, the better you will feel.
I made the mistake (before DB) of doing both of those things I just said not to do. It slowed us down, so the fact that he was still overseas which I now see that as a blessing in disguise, had he been here and had I NOT been actively DBing-who knows, we might already be divorced-we were making each other MISERABLE.
Give him his space but let him know you are there for him, and reassure him of your commitment to the marriage and the reconciliation.
Time. Time, time and more time. You know what you should be doing (and are doing it) and know that now PMA is very important, maybe more important now than ever.
Again, this is great news...just be patient-he's come this far-AND so have you!
