What you're saying is a big thing. I know that I have to somehow get to that place where I KNOW I'd be fine either way. I really admire that you both reached that point. I think I do know it deep down but I am nowhere near really being ok with it.
Everytime I get really stressed about whether he will come back for a another try, I do consciously try to make myself let him go all over again and assume that he isn't coming back. (He doesn't see this). I end up going through another layer of grieving when in reality things are moving in a positive direction. Guess I don't know if this is from fear of getting hurt or a healthy thing.
It's getting harder to do because the more he talks about wanting a new start, the more I want it, too.
I have been thinking about what you said, Kent, about boundaries. I may borrow your words next week, when I get back, if he hasn't broken up with her. I get it- not an ultimatum, a boundary.
Thanks guys, this is really helpful. I feel a little at the end of my rope, too. Kind of unfair since success seems so close. The thoughts about ow is really wreaking havoc with my newfound peace. Hopefully U2 will help alleviate that
Thanks,
LeeP
[This message has been edited by LeeP (edited 05-25-2001).]
