Before the new beginning- need advice

[Jamesjohn]

Kent - It sounds like one thing we had in common was the fact that we were prepared for this to go either way. I was done, too, and could have dealt with her making a different choice then she did. I gave her my blessing to keep seeing OM, I just didn't want him to set foot on my property. Told her that finding out about him was a big turning point for me. That it became clear to me that as much as I WANTED her in my life, I didn't NEED her. That my life was going to be good either with or without her. I felt I had nothing left to lose, and would be alright no matter what she decided. Quite a reality-check for her, shocked her quite a bit, and it gave her some things to think about.
The key to doing this, I think, is to honestly be prepared for it to go either way. If it's used as a "reverse psychology" game, it could easily backfire on you.