JJ, I did a similar thing but was not as kind. I told W she had to decide what she wanted in life. She could choose her current path or choose to make a life with me. I left no in between options open. I was not ugly about it. I was very tired at the time. One might say I was done. W went out of town for a couple of days and I spent that time obsessing about wether I had done the right thing. It's easy to say that it was right cus she came back choosing the more favorable option. I knew it could have easily went the other way.
I agree with the boundaries thought. You can't let the crisis of a WAS destroy you. Too many resposibilities to allow that to happen.
