Lee - I hate to play the devil's advocate here, but I must. Is it time to set some boundaries? What does he REALLY want? What do YOU really want?

H got home yesterday, didn't end it with ow (chickened out, basically) but still insists he wants to be with me - he's stressed about how to do it and the intense stuff he's going through around this.

When I went through a similar situation, I didn't give an ultimatum, but set a boundary. "W, I love you and I want our marriage to work. As long as you're still seeing OM, I can't see that happening. I'll remain being your friend, your BEST friend, and I will be open to discussing our reconciliation when you're ready."

No threats, just setting the boundaries. I then backed-off, detached, and the ball was in her court. It took a bit, but she made her choice. Bold move, but I honestly felt that way, wasn't scared of losing her, because I didn't really HAVE her at the time. It helped get her off the fence without threatening her.

I hesitate suggesting YOU try this, but it is an option. Only YOU will know if this is right for you.

U2 ROCKS!!!! Have a great time!!!


[This message has been edited by Jamesjohn (edited 05-24-2001).]


JJ

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