Carol, I read your post 3 times over and took stock of H's attitude. I think he does have the right one. He's been working really hard lately. It just isn't always in fornt of me, and in the way I want to see it. That's my attitude to adjust, too! lol
Yesterday, H said I deserve for him to come to me completely free of ow and ready to work on our marriage, and he's taking care of that. HE's gone to see ow to tell her the whole story this weekend. Isn't trying to protect her anymore. He said he is WELL aware that he is on thin ice with me, and that he's worried he's going to lose me!