The C suggested I write my H a note regarding the upcoming weekend. We made plans with a bunch of friends - I still want to be able to enjoy that time but know that it will be very uncomfortable if things continue th way they are. I wrote him an email saying that we are both hurting right now and probably need more time to solve it but we should talk about the weekend. So far no reply....benefit of the doubt is that he is not by his desk...or maybe he just doesn't want to answer?