Hi Heidi! Haven't had a chance to keep up with you lately, and when I read about your C session, it made me shiver! I took pretty much the same stance in my & W's C session on Monday. Questioning whether things will work out, there may be other things to work on before working on OR, questioning continuance of joint sessions. Mentioning of the OP and how it really is a problem with me, a hurdle I haven't got over yet. I didn't get an immediate reaction like you did, but it's seeming to have shaken the fence a bit, getting things out of limbo. My W also belittles the significance of the op, just chooses to treat it as a side issue. Ignore it, and it'll go away.

My plan is pretty much the same as yours, just to back off and leave her questioning how much longer I'll be around. Making her aware that I'm not going to put up with her lack of commitment forever. Making her realize that she needs to put forth some more effort on OR.

Wish us both luck! I'll keep looking in to see how you are doing.


JJ

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