"NM, I need to know what your plan is for my life..."
What the hell is that? If HE were the LBS, there would be a line of the "manliest men" telling him to grow a set, start making decisions and be "the man". They would tell him that his indecisiveness was probably one of the big issues in the marriage and a contributing factor to NM having an affair (um...well...you know what I mean).
Geezus, I know the man is not well but could he be any more codependent or P/A? "NM, I hate you and don't really want you in the house..." "Ok SO, I'll leave tomorrow..." "Damnit NM, I knew you would do that. Why do you have to be that way?"
Wow. That's about it, just wow. This man has NO freaking clue what he wants right now and worrying about it is probably going to land YOU NM, in the hospital.
I too am angry at reading his texts. Sorry I can't be more helpful other than to offer support.
