Honey, I have no answers but your SO is being a Jack. A$$. His texts are immature and baby-ish. What a whiner. He's just whacked in the head, as all WAS's are, and hopefully the reality of you disappearing and him seeing that his life is HIS fault, not yours, will shake some sense into him.
I'm probably all wrong but it just p-ed me off to read those texts to you and I had to rant on your behalf. Chin up, sister, the aliens have landed again.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3