Him: Im still drugged up. Hope to be out of here later. How are the kids? Me: The kids are doing well. They're good kids. Have a good day
Him: What is going to happen NM? Please dont fight w me about things needing to be dif in the future. I didnt exactly get good news from the dr. Me: I told you - I will NOT contribute to any more of your stress, and I mean it. I agree to whatever you need me to do or whatever arrangements you want. It's the ONLY thing I can do for you. The kids would be better off with an alive part-time dad, than a full-time dead dad.
Him: You always fight with me about it and thats what is taking its toll on me Me: There's nothing to fight about because there's nothing left. It probably won't happen overnight like you want (me moving out), but I will come up with a resolution.
Him: I have tried my best not to be a part time dad. But i guess thats all i am Me: You're a great dad and you can tell by how much the kids love & miss you. Don't ever doubt that. Whatever you want I will do. So my kids can have their dad.
Him:I just dont want the rest of my life to consist of nothing but stress and major med problems. Me: OK...Rest easy & try not to worry - I'll do my best to ease things for you. Take care of yourself & we can work on being friends for the sake of the kids. If I act distant, it's because it's the way it has to be until I get used to these changes.
Him: I cant get used to anything either NM. Constantly am being made sick thinking about what will happen to my kids. Its all my fault and its prob going to kill me Me: It's not all your fault - I had a lot to do with it,too. You said this is what needs to be done. Now, take a nap or something, please. I'm going to start mowing the lawn and work on my tan.
Him: Ok. When you can, email me my avail bank bal. I need lots pills Me: $$$$ available Him: Thank you. I need to do something about this bad money situation dammit Him: How was the fireworks? (Don't know why he asked this??? No response from me)
Me: You're free to come back to your own house at any time to relieve the money sitch while I figure out MY plan. (After I read Ellie's & GH's posts & in response to money sitch) Him: Thanks but we both know that will be way to hard
Me: OK, its not about you & me anymore. Now it's about helping YOU. It does make the most financial sense. I need to get out of here & we both agree to that. Just didn't want you to think you weren't allowed in your own home if it saves the most $.
Him: We can not live in the same house NM. Your the one that screamed and yelled at me to note out in the 1st place
Him: Its not all about the money. Going back there would mentally kill both of us and destroy the kids feelings Me: OK, you're right. just wanted you to know there would be no expectations if you chose that option. It would have to be a temporary room mate scenario only.
Him: I know NM. Please come up with some options that will work best for all of us. I can not keep going to the hospital, things need to change now, and change for the best. Please Me: I also need to know some of YOUR ideas, please. Option A. I move to XX - requires $$ I DON'T HAVE! Option B. Remain here (alone) & go back to work until more money is saved for me to move out. Option C. You move back here, save money, while I also work & save money. Any other ideas?
Him: I dont want to move D7 in the middle of a school year Me: OK, and it would probably be a good idea to stop talking with each other so much, don'tcha think? Set a schedule for visitation with the kids. Nothing personal- let's keep it to a bare minimum. No more entanglements of ANY sort. We need to keep our lives separate from each other, OK?
Him: I knew you would reply that way, but i guess thats the way it will have to be. I will come there tomorrow to visit Me: I'm sorry. Don't take it the wrong way. I guess I don't understand what you're asking of me.
Anyone make any sense of this or do I put too much emphasis on the things he says to me?
