Quote: And especially now - when he's saying the stress (of us) is a big factor in his health problems?
Funny, I read that more as him saying the stress of his having an affair and trying to lead a double life led to his health problems.
And how long has it been since you suggested to him that a positive future together is a possibility? Not in a pressuring way, butin a "You know, it's still a possibility" way? Just because he rejected it before DOESN'T mean it isn't rolling aroundin his mind. I found out, much to my surprise, that something I said to my H during his crisis - something I thought at the time he didn't even HEAR, since he certainly never acknowledged it - was the one thing that kept rolling around in his head and brought him home.
(What did I tell him? I told him he was going to have to work his problems out sometime, somewhere, so why not here with the mother of his children, who knew all his flaws and loved him anyway?).
