I will second what KML said a bit. I used to get all worked up because when I thought about talking to my W about our future together, I would feel guilty about thinking it would be filled with joy. Somehow my guilt translated into my vision getting dark and not communicated to her very well. It was almost like I never gave my W credit for being able to see ANY good between us in the future.
It was the venerable OT who set me straight on that one. She asked me why I felt guilty for having a positive vision for "us"? Why couldn't I present this vision as a thing to be desired by BOTH of us, not something to be rejected by her.
KML is saying the same thing to you. Why not just accept that you have a positive vision, where you two DO work things out and things DO get better, then share that vision with him. Maybe he needs to hear that from you right now.
