(still lurking around here-good to pick up your thread again)
Here's my take, and please don't be offended, I mean this in the best possible way.
Stop worrying about how he will take your going dark. That's what going dark is all about my dear....NOT worrying about him, what he's doing, what he's thinking, what he thinks you're thinking, what he's feeling, what you think he wants you to feel and all that other obsessive stuff that we're so familiar with. Focus on YOU. Period. Nothing else.
I think it's a good idea. Go as dark as you can.
Also, have an absolute BLAST at the wedding and of course this calls for a new dress/shoes (a sexy-dress would be ideal-not sleezy-but sexy) and get your hair/nails done too. You deserve it. Besides, take comfort in knowing that your H WILL hear about how good you look, seeing as how the wedding involves mutual family/friends right...ya'think??!! I think I'd go alone, but that's just me, and I think that's pretty much what you've decided too, huh?
I also want to tell you how much I admire you and your thoughts and feelings, or should I say lack thereof, for OW. Woweee I am certainly impressed girlfriend! You rock! I don't think I could handle it even 1/10th as well as you do...I was lucky enough not to have OW thrown in my face-she lives overseas (still does I guess) and it was over b/t her and H well before he returned home from his overseas tour (not as same location as OW either). I did communicate with her, once-the day the bomb dropped, and suffice to say I handled that one with very little grace and certainly NO DB skills (this was BDB-before DB).
Anyway-I consider you my model as far as that is concerned...every time I obsess about her, yes even now I sometimes still do, I will think about you and gain strength.
thanks...and dance one for me at the wedding!
L
[This message has been edited by Me2 (edited 08-20-2001).]
