Haven't talked much with SO since our last argument Monday. Yesterday I took the kids to his mom's for a BBQ. That morning he sent me an email that said "What are you going to do?" I took it as he was asking about *other* things but answered him with "Today, I'm going to your mom's for a BBQ. Then, taking the girls to the fireworks tonight in Town. Hope you're doing better. " That was it. No response from him.
Later on at his mothers, he called about 3-4 times throughout the day. WTH? Wouldn't speak to me, though - until the last phone call as we were getting ready to leave. His tone was Did we have a good time? Do I have enough money, just basic stuff said very pleasantly. I was very cautious, kept my tone light and stuck to just answering his questions. Told him we were getting ready to leave.
When I got home, he had sent an email that said "Are you home yet? Did you schedule a date at the fireworks?" WTH? For a person that wants me out of his life, sees me as the root of all evil and problems, he certainly cares a bit too much, wouldn't you say? My response: "Home. Headed to the fireworks around 8:30." Nothing else - no reference to the "date", nothing. So, then he calls. Gets me on the phone after the kids and says am I going to the fireworks alone or is someone going to help me, his mother or anyone else? I said "No, I'm going to take them by myself." He said "OK, I told D7 to call me when you guys get home." Again, WTH? Checking up on me? Jekyll & Hyde. Or rather, his typical Gemini dual-personality behavior.
So, the girls & I went to the fireworks. They all had a good time - even D1.5. She kept going "1, 2, 3 - look!" Pointing to the fireworks. She was cute and I'm glad I decided to take them all. It didn't turn out so bad - they were all very well behaved and had fun.
We got home, I had D7 call SO while I made myself busy putting the other two to bed. He didn't speak with me.
Today it's back to "What am I going to do?" I have to call my mother and let her know if I want her to come up for a couple of days. I'll probably tell her yes. If at the very least, I really need to do some in-depth organizing (& cleaning) of the house. Time to throw some old crap away, do some of the things I've had to put off because I can't do it with the 2 littles ones running around. Make some job-related phone calls. Update the resume again.
Don't know what else to do besides take it one day at a time until I find my own answers. I'm going cautiously because of the kids. If it were just me, I'd probably give him exactly what he wants. Exit stage left. With the kids, I have to think of them. What's best for them, as well as myself. In my relations with SO, I plan on staying out of his way and not give him any reason to look at me negatively.
