I don't think there's anymore wiggle room - not after receiving this:

"I dont know. I have seen you cry. Heard you yell. Call the police. Moan about my actions. All for the last time..for the sake of my kids and for the sake of my health you need to get a job and move into a place on your own. If you refuse, or become difficult, i will die."

I can't fight this anymore. Time is up. He wants me gone. Blames me for everything, including his health.