Quote: Well, I guess if I've made it this far, I can go a little further through these times of confusion. I have to remember that this has to be on HIS timetable and not push.
I wish I had thought of this simple response to OT on my thread. This is my feeling exactly but for some reason, and maybe for both of us, this is wrong? Somehow I don't feel that way.
As for your "shortness" with him and general moodines, I think maybe you AND I have expectations built up. That's why the phone calls/emails are ok with you. It's because there can BE no more. There can be no opportunity for a goodbye kiss passed on. There can be no sexual tension. There can only be communication, without all the extra stuff like body language and even tone.
I think expectation can be a HUGE downfall for you right now but then again, at some point we should be allowed to have DESIRES and WISHES for our sitch and feel that we deserve to have those things happen. I guess that's where boundaries come in, and where it's up to us to decide if we are going to just wait some more or throw in the towel.
Of course, there ARE alternatives to that, like doing more "different" things (i.e. what I suppose OT is telling me to do), more 180's and such.
I probably should not be giving advice today as I kinda feel lost a bit myself, but I just think that you can make yourself happier than you are right now. Work on that and work on not expecting anything from him.
