After thinking about it, since the apparent split with OW, he's "tested" me on more than one occasion - I remember he did it at Mothers Day, as well. Even admitted "He wanted to see what I would do" after I called him on it.
I also know he's frustrated. This is a man who's always on the go - being tied to a hospital bed has to be getting to him. Plus the unexpected people dropping in. When I got there yesterday, he had had the nurses put signs up on his door "No visitors allowed" and "Stop at nurses station before entering". Of course, people close to him, like me, lol, ignore the signs and just go in. And, his phone never stops ringing (with no caller ID!). It's got to be frustrating for him, and I know that, but jeez, don't take it out on me just because you CAN.
And, it's funny, even through the argument on the phone before I got there, he still gave me the impression he wanted us to be there. I almost have to wonder if he was hoping I would be there and OW would show up - kind of a reverse thing. To piss her off, not me. It makes me wonder. But, whatever - it didn't happen and I'm very thankful for that.
I know it's up to me to keep taking the high road and not let this crap get to me, I guess I was feeling the stress, too. He really fails to see any side but his own. I try to see things from his POV, and I sometimes wish he would do the same thing. I know, I shouldn't expect that, lol, yet it would be nice. I know this an extreme circumstance, him being the hospital, but I didn't put him there. It's his own damned fault he hasn't taken care of his health issues.
Sorry - I'm venting again. But it kind of helps to say the things I'd love to say to him! I can trick my mind into thinking I've said them *out loud* and sometimes it helps make those thoughts go away.
