Thanks guys....

Hope all's OK with you, Sara...

SO's back to acting like a pompous ass, so he must be feeling better. Yesterday his mom called after I posted and asked if I wanted her to sit with the kids while I went to see SO. I told her OK. When I spoke with SO and told him I was thinking about bringing D7 over for a visit, he ended up saying "Well, I don't know who's going to be here, so I don't want any trouble and I don't want you to get pissed." I lost it. Stupid spat ensued. I said "What are you telling me?" He said "I'm just telling you I can't control who comes here and I don't want any crap." I said, "Well you know I don't care who's there with the exception of one person. And if you can't make one phone call to tell her not to be there so you can have a visit with me and your daughter, then I won't even come there at all." I was so hurt. I couldn't believe it - he never actually said OW, I did. Bad, NM. But that was the impression I got.

His mom wasn't getting here until around 2, so a couple hours went by and he called right as we were getting ready to leave...He said "I thought you were coming out." I said we're leaving now although if it wasn't for me already telling D7 we were going to visit, I wouldn't come." Bad, again. He did say he wanted us to come out.

When we got there, it was more sarcasm from him...to the point where I actually said I was leaving the room and would be back in a while and left D& there with him while I went outside. I couldn't deal with it. He kept needling me - "Want to see who this cards from?" Want to see what's in my closet? I only came here to get money... On & On. It was horrible.

After an hour I got D7 and we left. I wasn't going to deal with it anymore...as I was leaving, he made another remark and I almost starting crying - telling him I didn't belong there and we were going - I knew he could see I was holding it back. I told him he hurt me very badly with the things he was saying, and we left.

Later on he called, asking why we were arguing and why I said I didn't belong there. I said that he made it seem that his fans and OW were more important and that we were intruding. I told him that it wasn't easy making arrangements to get to see him - that we didn't live 15 minutes away, it wasn't like I could just pop in anytime. I told him I didn't go there for money, he wasn't my cash cow and that saying that was the only reason I was there was hurtful. He said OW hadn't been there the whole time he's been in and not to worry about that. Then,some more talka and then somehow he blurts "I'm going to have no choice but to move back in when I get out of here." I said nothing. I wasn't going *there* after the horrible day already.

He called again around 11 PM...pretty late, I thought. Saying he was in pain again...we talked a little, that perhaps he overdid it today. He agreed. He said they were going to run another CT scan today...

Overall, it was a horrible day. I'm sure there was a way I could have turned things around, I just was a little numb and hurt by the hurtful stuff he was saying. I just felt like saying if that's his attitude, I'm not going to waste HOURS of my time, and money for gas on him. Screw it. That was just my mood. Although, I must say, I didn't fall into the same trap. I didn't throw hurtful remarks back at him- I think he may have been testing me? Perhaps taking things out on me because he was frustrated himself? I don't know, but I didn't fall back to that game. Simply told him I thought he was being mean and hurtful and it was uncalled for. Perhaps not the best way to handle it, but better being straightforward than being sarcastic back - different way than I have in the past and I do think it made him realize both of us were being stupid. Oh well. I'm not dwelling on it.


It's a new day...and so far, no rain!