In the interest of less confusion (and because I really do), I agree with OT. If you express what YOU want and then maybe gauge his response (since I am still not sure HE is going to be able to be clear in his communication...yet), you may get enough to allow him to come back and not feel that it's under 100% false pretenses.
I know this is a hard decision and no matter what you do, I would NOT suggest you begin to place your needs in his hands to fill just yet, home or no home. Let time play it's role in rebuilding some of what you two have lost.
