Couple of other things I thought of....

The purchase of this pick up - In the past, yes, I've
b!tched when he would make something that I viewed as an uneccesary purchase...I could have used a new/newer vehicle since I'm the one carting the kids around. This time, I just agreed with his decision, no argument from me.

And now he's saying how plain this truck is. This time - what I've done different - not said anything other than words of encouragement. Honestly, there isn't enough $ to warrant the purchase of a more expensive vehicle, so this will have to do.

Last night he emailed me with the items he wants to get to turn the truck from a plain Jane into "his" - once again, no comments on my part except for kidding that I "knew" he would find a way to personalize the truck and actually gave him a few more ideas.

He has such a fear of me trying to control his money -this has always cropped up between us. But, in reality, it's not my money. It's his to do with what he pleases. This leads me to the next item, his recent comments (there's been a few) and maybe I'm reading more into this than I should be - but his comments along the lines of HOW he's going to afford things - additional bills along with his rent. Not even going there. I've just noticed that he's brought this up a few times. And - NO - I'm not asking him to move back. Not sure that's what his intent is in making these statements, just noting them.

Oh yes and OT this is for you, The last time he was here, he noticed my new nightie...lol. I skipped the new bra and went with a 3-piece Nightie, robe, panties - and he IMMEDIATELY noticed it even though I wasn't parading around in it. LOL When did you get that? Why? lol

Oh - forgot - he keeps bringing up things that/trips we've taken in the past. RE: last weekend - telling his friend about the trips we took to the area his wedding was at; and to me the other day, reminding me this is the weekend we usually went to Charlotte for the race. Interesting.

So, anyway, my point here...trying to do things different. Different reactions, or none at all. ANYTHING other than the usual or what he might expect. Hope I'm doing OK - I'm certain there's tons of room for improvement, but it's a start!