LOL - Yes, the scream effect....works every time...in a variety of situations, lol - anytime you need to divert attention away from the obvious!
Another funny story...yesterday I decided to deep clean my bedroom...it's just one of those rooms that always seems to get put off...ya know, I'll get to it after the more important rooms - kitchen, baths, etc...
I had my 18 month in there with me and I was vacuuming (with the extended hose) under the bed, along the trim, etc - everywhere the regular vacuum can't reach...I kept watching her and she was playing with the telephone which a push button kind - not cordless. I yelled at her a few times, finally done vacuuming bring her and vacuum out to living room.
I happen to look outside and there's a state trooper sitting out on the road. At the same time a cement truck was backing down my neighbors drive, which is so close to mine, we practically share the entry. I pay no mind....then see the trooper pull down my drive. I'm like WTH? I go downstairs to meet him and he says "Did you call 911?" I wasn't expecting this and was stuttering, probably sounding guilty, and Who, me? Uh, no. He said "Well, is this XXX Road?" I said yes. Phone Number? 123-4567...Yes - a 911 call came in from this number.
Then it dawned on me...I said, Im really sorry, I think my daughter must have done it. He asked me for ID and I said, can you come upstairs, that's where I have it. So comes up, and sees my 3 year old and 18 month old, and I'm apologizing profusely...I said it wasn't the 3 year old who did this...I said, what are the odds that an 18 month old can hit the #'s for 911? He seemed kind of mad, but said "Don't worry it happens all the time." So that was my interesting story of the day...lol. Most excitement I've had in a while...lol.
Ok..back to mundane life...not much going with SO. He called a couple of times yesterday...I relayed the 911 story...he'll be here later to get the plates off his old truck, then I have to drive him to the dealership to pick up a pick-up. LOL He got a deal on cheap, no frills, used 4 WD...
In one of our conversations yesterday, he made a remark that he was still feeling sick and the only reason he was going to the bar remote is because he desperately needs the money...I paused and didn't say anything and jumped on it asking "Are you pissed?". Now, he always asks me this, and usually I'm not mad but it seems the second he utters these words I instantly get defensive and it makes me mad that he thinks I'm mad!
So, thinking of my new thread title, I said to him, "No, I'm not mad. I just don't know how to answer you when you say something like that."
And I really don't - I mean is this Passive/Aggressive behavior? What do you say to someone who says "I'm sick, and the only reason I'm doing this is because YOU don't work"....or, at least that's how I interpret what he said. It isn't what he said, but that's what I hear . So - how to answer? "I'm sorry"? - That sounds lame.
I see us interacting this way in several areas and I WANT TO CHANGE IT!!!!!! LOL I don't think I did so bad by telling him that I didn't know what to say because it made him stop and think about the words he said. I hope this makes sense. Did I do OK? Or, what would have a better answer (for future reference!)?
