Lee I agree with Kent too. That does seem to be a far less scary way of thinking of it. It's not like I have to keep doing it if everything seems to go to hell. Actually my C put it a good way too. She said I just need to rock the boat, not tip the thing over.
I'll see him tomorrow,so I'll start my little expereiment then by asking him to the wdding. Then it will be easy to back off since I'm at our state fair on Friday so I won't have any contact with him other than Thursday basically, which makes things easier for me at least.
