Thanks lee, I'm glad I'm able to help you a little. Good luck with your alien.
Good point Greg. That reminded me of the fact that I have told him that in our last counseling session. I don't need to tell him again. I totally forgot about that.
I'll keep it simple. Ask him to wedding, that will give me a little more info on where his head's out. I'm trying to decide if it's beneficial to tell him I've stopped seeing OG. On one hand, if he asks anything about why etc., I can give him the very short and powerful answer "because I'm married."
Or is that another thing I don't need to tell him. This may sound like pressure, but it's a new tactic, no pressure or OR talk hasn't been working- we're at a stalemate.
I also have to be very careful not to expect a response right away if at all. It may be that he's fine with the thought of completly losing me out of his life and he would rather lose me than OW. But if that's the case I am certainly better off knowing that.
How do you gear up for the real distancing though? This is really going to be hard. I actually have this feeling like I'm abandoning him-it's that bizarre.
