Quote: when we make our mistakes and try to move on... are our 'lessens learned' a ruse to just lessen the pain of our situation?
No, self-preservation drive will motivate the mind to deal with the pain of the situation all on its own. “Lessons learned” are the educational byproduct or result of the self analysis and healing processes.
Quote: Are there really any lessens learned?
Yes, there are. Let’s take your situation for example. You have learned that you deserve both love and respect from your H. He needs to start showing you more of that love and respect by cutting out his deliberately flirtatious behavior with other women. Furthermore, he needs to put his ring back on because you see his ring as a symbol of his commitment to you and your M.
Quote: Does any of it... this REALLY work
Yes, it in fact does. Though, the fact that a M takes two people means that one motivated and loving partner can sometimes have a really difficult time seeing progress. Though, you are a fantastic person that deserves love and nurturing. Thus, you are going to press on until your H figures out how to properly convey those things.
GUB… I take it you had the talk?
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. -- Socrates
