Thanks, I'm glad my story is helping you. Sounds like you're doing a good job at dbing. It's so hard in the beginning, well who are we kidding, it's never easy at any stage but it does eventually come more naturally I think, without the constant thinking about it.
If you do a search under newcomers I have one main thread under my Saturnh username that I think could really help you. It is titled "TomM,Gbon, Cliff need advice on WAH in limbo" it has excellent advice from some of the best on the board. You'll see how I struggled with so many things that you will struggle with also. And it has great advice on learning to be friends and taking care of myself. Check it out and I'll make sure to watch for your threads also.
I'm still sitting here in limbo, but it's not a limbo I really worry about much, and H and I have so much more of a closer relationship that whatever happens I know we'll always be in each other's lives, and we don't even have children.
Also, if you don't have your own thread yet, start one in newcomers so you'll have somewhere to vent when things get tough. Post your story and explain what you're currenlty doing-you'll get a lot of feedback in that forum and I'll check for you there too. Have you read Divorce Busting? If not, you know the drill, get the book immediatly, and until you've read it, hold back from doing any major moves. What seems natural isn't often the right thing needed in these situations.
Keep me posted . Heidi
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