just wanted to tell you that your story is kind of an inspiration to me, I have only been seperated three weeks with the wife in full blown MLC for 5 months. I decided after three weeks of total avoidance (one 180 she didn't expect) to calling her up on sat.(another 180 she didn't expect) and letting her talk. I did tell her i'd done alot of work on me and that when she was ready to talk I would listen.(another 180, since I think she was expecting me to blast her like I was before the speration) She didn't seem interested in an OR but didn't run either, we just caught up on the news for 1 1/2 hours. She has an OM, but I am trying to do the "as if" on that....like you are. I am curious about your story, couldn't find your thread from Nov. My wife is VERY confused right now..... which is natural.... but she did make a comment last night about "when we get back together blah blah blah..." I realize I can't believe a word she says right now.... and I am trying to emulate your attitude while she vacillates between us. I am trying to be her friend while she is finding out what independant living is all about. I am hearing more negatives from her all the time about little stuff like doing the laundry and her apt is a mess and she is too tired to get it cleaned and I am not rescuing her from it all.( another 180 since I was over- responsible for all that in our marriage, now she is learning what she is missing). Anyway, keep up the good work.... I will be lurking and learning.
