Thanks to both of you, really, for your kind words. I can't begin to tell you how that makes me feel. I told a friend of mine this morning that some may call me strong, others may call me crazy. At times, I don't know which a I am, either. But I'm glad at least my sitch can be an inspiration to you. Even I'm amazed -- and H told me last night he is, too -- with just how much love I have for my H. It takes amazing people to continue loving people who hurt us so. Love is such a powerful emotion ... much more powerful than hate.
always, you've hit on the biggest dilemma I've had since this whole mess started -- when to help my H out and when to back off. Despite my ranting on the boards, H is calling all the shots with regard to OW and the baby. But he does ask for my input, and I share it with him.
The only time I'll give my opinion without him asking for it is when he mentions something that will impact *my* life.
It's a tightrope, honestly, because *all* of it impacts my life. My H and I share a life, but the baby was created when we didn't. So I feel that he should take responsibility, but anything he decides from this point forward will also affect me and my children. Argh. Do you see the frustration of it all?
That's why, you're right, I must take things one step at a time. Right now, I'm up to about one hour at a time, then I have a beer.
