Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm just taking it slow and back to really concentrating on keeping myself happy. I just need to back off again and let him figure himself out and what he wants in life.
I think H is coming over tonight or tomorrow for video games and grilling. I'm making plans for whichever night H isn't over so I asked him to see if he could let me know one way or the other and that I wanted to give him the chance to choose a night first. I've noticed that when I ask H something before i do it he seems to really like that and appreciate it. That is not a normal reaction for me, I usually made plans for us then told him about it.
So maybe that's a 180 I've stumbled onto. It's not an attempt to let him call all the shots, I guess it's just consideration and maybe that's been lacking. Seems that if I give in that area, he'll turn around and make a real effort to narrow down his plans for me. In the past he would never make any plans and everything was always up in the air-leading me to make all the plans and give up on asking his opinion 'cause it seems like he never would give me an answer.
But he's been doing pretty well at calling me when he says he will and if he's going to be a little late-somthing that used to infuriate me because he'd never call and I'd just be left waiting. So maybe we're slowly making some progress in the area of consideration for each other-a start.
