Maybe it's me, but I think what your H said during the movie was a "good" thing. It seems to me like he was acknowledging that the initial "great" feelings do not last. Didn't he say it was all down hill from there? Those are the words that I would focus on. It seems like he's telling you that the relationship with OW pretty much sucked after that first lust stuff wore off. I'm sure he paid dearly for that life lesson!
I also don't think he meant to hurt you by his comments. I'm sure he knows that you have unresolved feeling about everything and maybe he was trying to communicate with you by using the movie. Hang in there. It will take a lot of work to come out on the other side of all of this stuff.
You have so many positives in your life. I know how grateful you are for all of your blessings. Focus on that and in due time you will work through your feelings about OW and her child.
Give that baby boy a big hug from me. How many times had he peed on you? Little boys are dangerous that way!
So glad you stopped by my thread.
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Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
Little boys are dangerous that way!