Six of one, half a dozen of the other. No, I may not be pregnant with the child, but I have three children of my own who, if we choose to tell them about the baby, will also feel insecure ... and would especially wonder how H and I could be so cold as to know he has a child in the world and care nothing about having her in our lives. What does that say to *my* children?
I have a moral obligation to look out for the best interest of my H's child, not OW's other two children. They are her responsibility. Perhaps OW should have cosidered their mental well-being before she spread her legs for a married man and decided to carry through with a pregnancy that she planned from the jump?
OW's intent has been and is to use her own child to manipuate circumstances. How does that make her the more suitable parent? Just because she carried her for nine months? Tell that to adopting parents.
Let's get down to the cold truth and put this baby to bed (no pun intended): The child OW is carrying is just as much my H as it is OW. There's nothing that makes her more suitable than H to raise the child -- though we could obviously go back and forth with opinions until we're blue in the face ... er, fingers.
