Thanks Alex and Kent. I too agree that H is not ready and is too immature. He's not ready to completly work on marriage and give up OW cold turkey. I have to back off and let him miss me again and let him figure out exactly what he's going to be losing. H is going to counseling quite a bit and he's stoarting to change but has a long way to go and I don't want him back until he's a whole, mature guy-otherwise we'll be right back where we started.
I'll just completly lay off asking if he wants to hang out etc-I'll let him to it. H actually said that OW and thier mutual friend had suggested the three of them go for lunch and he thought that would be safe, I was like "are you f**king kidding" I did't use that strong of language, I basically just stared at him and realized he's not anywhere ready to reconcile yet. God, he's so far behind me!
H did say that he's just looking for anyone to tell him that these things he is feeling are normal and quelch some of the doubts he keeps feeling. Somthing to let him know that we can make it through this part. He's scared and confused still-I know how he feels but at least I'm more mature. Please stay in touch, I need you all now. Thanks.
