Hey, guys. Yeah, if I had any say in the matter, a baby would have obviously never been created in the first place. H and I have talked about how adoption would be the best thing. Now, if somebody could tell me how to freeze he11 over, then I'll call OW and make that happen right away.

She *wanted* the baby; in fact, H says she told him within the first month of them dating that she wanted to have his child ... Adoption is not an option.

There is no contact between H and OW now; from what H tells me, she likely went away because I told her I would support my H regardless of what he decided -- including if he decides that he wants custody. According to my H, OW would stick a fork in her eye before she'd let *me* help raise her baby -- since I *am* the person who "took" her man, after all. Forget that he was my H, right?

As for any resentment I would feel toward their baby, I guess I can't expect anyone on this board to know who I truly am. But I would never *ever* harbor resentment toward an innocent child. Instead, it hurts me to my core to know that there will be a part of my H walking the earth that I will never know. I would love *anything* that is of my H ... because I love *him*. Perhaps some people can't understand that -- and maybe I don't even understand where that comes from in me -- but it is what it is.