Heidi, what you are experiencing is perfectly normal. Have you read the book, After the Affair? It is really helpful in trying to sort out how and why you feel the way you do, and how and why he feels the way he does. You have established the best criteria for getting your marriage back on track: you have proven that you are his friend, and that you love him. Marriage is about being friends and lovers. You've done the first. As for the second, it can come back, but I do think you can help it along by really letting him pursue you. Give him some time and space though, because he is getting over ow. I never thought my h would feel this way toward me again, but he is. It came and went in waves, and it had a lot to do with how he felt about himself, about ow, about me and my reactions. If you want email me at alexnewman@idirect.com. I think you really need to pull back -- not being antagonistic at all, just pull back. Don't be so available.
