Hello all, my first post here and I need all of your help.
H and I spent about every other day last week together and had a good time. He is working on himself a lot through C so we are not the main concern right now, one thing at a time.
Last night we had a discussion and today I need your honest opinions. One thing H is really struggling with is that he feels no sexual desire or constant affection for me. He says he feels I'm beaufiful, he loves and cares about me, but there is no desire. He's shut it off for so long that he really fears it won't return and I'm scared of this also. When we kiss there isn't a deep passion or desire for each other yet. H said he had no problem with this with OW.
Have we both shut it off for so long that it can't be turned back on? Or is this normal and if it is what can we do about it, what is the natural progression of these feelings.
H is basing everything on this. H won't think about moving back in yet until he has these feelings. And I worry since he's still getting over OW (only broke up with her 2 weeks ago) and he sees her daily because of work that this can't happen. Can it?
Last night I felt the first real sink in my hope, that maybe we are dealing with a problem that can't be overcome. We love each other and are best friends, but we have to be lovers too. I really don't know. I reach out to him and he says he doesn't mind that, he just doesn't feel the desire to do it on his own yet.
Did all of you go through this, or do I need to face some facts?
