Was just wondering if you could elaborate more on this :
"as for routine? changing things up? I am up for it but he isnt. "
Have you two ever had a real conversation about your sex life? Like: "You know honey, we've been married X number of years now, have you ever thought about trying something different? Or, is there something that you would really like?"
Maybe you have and maybe his answer has been "Nope, things are just fine." (Like my H originally said ) But, perhaps if you just pushed a little bit and was a little playful about it and said that there were things that you'd like to try... It's worth giving it a go.
Just my thoughts,
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
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