hi Im new to this forum and I really felt lead to post my situation here. I have been married for 17 yrs as i said and have 4 kids. From the night we were married my husband hasnt wanted me sexually. You would think i would have ran then but thought there was hope. We have gone from him having an affair to issues with porn to just months and months without sex. I thought at one point in our marriage things were going to change and the sex did get a bit better but then it stopped again. I know he isnt cheating on me and hasnt since the first yr we were married and I know from time to time he still has some issues with porn. We have had moments of being good friends and having a good relationship but the sex has not been what I feel is good. Once a month at most isnt what I would call a good sex life. Now i feel the excuse is health issues. About 9 months or so ago I had a revelation... Im in good shape and rather cute... two aspects of myself I hadnt known... I realized that he has the problem not me. so I have spent the last several months working on me... That has gotten the husbands attention and instead of realizing what i am doing was for me he accused me of having an affair! I was totally amazed and hurt that he would think i could do that. I set him straight and we are in the slow daunting process of figuring out how to salvage a marriage thats root problems stem from lack of affection and passion...
