Hey gang! Time for a brief weekly update.

Things are still a bit chaotic on the homefront, but the OR is going pretty great! Seems like W is VERY relieved at me taking over some of the stuff she can't handle. She's agreed to let me do what I need to do, doesn't want to know everything I'm doing, will stay out of the way, will trust my judgement, and won't make me out to be the "bad guy". I know, this probably wouldn't be healthy for the R as a long-term solution. It seems to be what needs to be done for now, and is giving her a chance to build her strength back up. I do see her getting a bit stronger every day. She wants to start pulling more of her weight around the house.

She had a chance to help out with a work related situation of mine. I was getting called on the carpet about some things, having a "special meeting" with my boss. She was familiar with the systems of management my boss was taught, and pulled out a ton of paperwork about interviews, reprimands, etc. from the major corporation they both used to work afor She went over a lot of stuff with me, the things she thought he was going to say, why he was going to say them, what all the steps were, suggestions on how to handle it, etc. She REALLY got into helping me with this, was more alive and stronger than I've seen her for awhile.

I brought a lot of the paperwork to work with me. Among the papers, I found several notes of encouragement she wrote to me. Telling me I'm a great man, a person whose life changes others by example. That everything will be fine. That she sees only a fraction of my heart, and is inspired to be a better human. Some very wonderful heartfelt prayers for me. That my integrity, compassion, the fear of God does not go unnoticed. She also wrote that I'm cute when I sleep!! This all brought tears to my eyes, and made my heart feel so warm.

All in all, things are going well. Still a lot of crap to deal with, but it's getting closer to playing itself out, and seems to be drawing us closer as a couple. I am STILL a little leary at times of the R going sideways, but the fears are growing weaker daily. It feels like the foundation is getting stronger beneath us.

Peace to you all. Hope everyone has a GREAT weekend!!


JJ

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