Hey gang! Pretty jammed-up right now, just wanted to let you know I'm still alive! W's not doing very well at times, bad anxiety attacks and depression. Needing more help than she's getting right now, and more than I'm qualified to give. She's realizing it, is scared deep down inside, and we need to put together a plan of attack to get her the help she needs. Her hand is sincerely reaching WAY out, so I'll be there for and with her.
W knows where I stand, some of the things that I won't accept in MY life. I made it clear to her that some things WILL change, and that I would like her help with it, and if she doesn't want to or can't help, I need her to stay out of the way. That I've given it a lot of careful thought, and it's not a control issue, but a matter of setting my boundaries. That I can't continue living this way, and that I'm not leaving again.
She hasn't blown-up at me yet, and seems to be drawing closer and more committed to OR.
I'm stirring up a bunch of stuff on the step-D situation, and things are starting to happen. This will probably get ugly for a while, and will be taking a lot of my time and energy. I'm confident that no matter what happens, it will be for the best. At least things are going to change, anyway!!
Michele - Thanks for your reply, and your vote of confidence. I'm putting down the DB and Divorce Remedy books for a while, and re-studying your "Change Your Life…" book. I'm currently putting a different twist on "making things worse", just to help change the direction some things are heading (or NOT heading!). Will keep you all up on the results.
Peace to you all!!
[ October 05, 2001: Message edited by: Jamesjohn ]
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