Kent, thanks for your response. My story is woven into others' threads. Rdiculous thing is my sister lived through the whole mlc of my h with me for three years. She knew what he did to me. In retrospect, she was starting into this about the same time my h did -- she was out dancing the night away three years ago, before I knew what my h was up to, and he was tsk-tsking about her behaviour -- how stupid I feel looking back. But no matter. My bil has the DB book -- I gave it to him about 18 months ago. My sister even commented how the book had gotten through to him because he was being so much nicer to her (I remember thinking at the time how much SHE needed to read it, but she's very headstrong about taking other people's advice). Anyway, he has the book, and I've told him about the website. I have also tried to tell him that his anger will do him no good, and tried to tell him how I worked through a lot of my own demons in this process, but esssentially you're right -- he needs to battle it himself.
JJ, I'm sorry for taking over your thread like this. I have been reading it for an eternity and commend you on your perseverence and insight. If your w never turns around and becomes straightened out, you have grown and matured a lot.
